My Journey of Self-Help and Healing
Self-help and healing are about far more than just the physical.
For me, they have been about finding moments of peace, learning to live again, and finding ways to honour my son while carrying him with me every day.
In the beginning, I didn’t know what healing meant. The pain felt endless, and I wasn’t sure if peace was even possible. But over time, I began to notice the little things that helped me feel connected — to my son, to others, and to life itself.
Sometimes, healing comes quietly — through a sound, a smell, or even a small act of kindness. It might be hearing a song that reminds me of my angel, catching the scent of something familiar, or simply helping someone who’s struggling. Those moments make me feel closer to my son, and somehow more human again.
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Signs from My Angel
There are days when I feel his presence in unexpected ways.
It might be a butterfly landing nearby in the middle of winter, a ladybird that appears just when I need comfort, or a song that plays at just the right moment. Some may call them coincidences, but to me, they are gentle signs — small reminders that love doesn’t end, it only changes form.
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Finding Peace Through Kindness
One of the most healing things I’ve discovered is the power of helping others.
I’ve found comfort in doing random acts of kindness in my son’s name — paying for a stranger’s coffee, leaving a kind note, or simply asking someone if they’re okay. These simple gestures may seem small, but they create ripples of goodness that reach further than we can see.
Each act feels like a way to honour my son — a way of keeping his love alive in the world. When I do something kind for someone else, I feel him beside me, reminding me that even through heartbreak, love can still grow.
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Continuing the Journey
Healing isn’t about “moving on.” It’s about learning to live differently — carrying our angels with us while still allowing light back into our lives.
There will always be moments of sadness, but there will also be moments of peace, laughter, and connection.
Through self-help, I’ve learned to listen to what my heart needs. Through self-healing, I’ve found ways to honour my son and myself — one breath, one act, one small moment at a time.
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WHO WE SUPPORT
​​​​When our angel baby went to heaven, life changed forever.
In those early days, I felt completely lost. The only thing that kept me going was the love and support of my family — especially my wife — and the kindness of others who understood what we were going through.
Over time, we found help through a local bereavement group. Talking with people who had walked a similar path helped us begin to heal and find a way forward.
I was fortunate to have my wife, family, and a professional counsellor to turn to when things felt too heavy to carry alone.
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Why We Started Helping Others
​As we slowly became stronger, we felt it was time to give something back. We began raising funds and donating to charities that provide professional help, support, and research for bereaved families.
(Visit our [Charity Partners] link to learn more.)
During one visit to a bereavement counsellor, she mentioned there were no local support groups just for fathers — a safe space for dads to talk and share. That conversation planted a seed.
We didn’t want a formal group sitting around in a hall — that didn’t feel right. We wanted something more natural, more understanding, and open to everyone.
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We also realised that some parents — especially those who are neurodivergent — often find it harder to express emotions or control overwhelming feelings. Their grief can look different, but it is just as real and deep.
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What We Do
We don’t offer one-to-one counselling.
Instead, we focus on advice, understanding, and shared experience — helping parents find their own path to healing.
Our aim is to encourage self-help and self-healing, offering tools and gentle guidance for those learning to live after loss.
Understanding Self-Help and Self-Healing
What Is Self-Help?
Self-help means taking steps to improve your life — emotionally, physically, and mentally — without relying only on professionals.
It can include:
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Maintaining a healthy routine through sleep, nutrition, and exercise
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Building strong, supportive relationships
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Using lived experience or simple techniques to manage stress, anxiety, or sadness
What Is Self-Healing?
Self-healing focuses on recovering from emotional wounds and finding inner peace.
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Understanding and accepting your emotions
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Developing self-awareness
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Using calming activities such as meditation, journaling, or gentle exercise
It’s about learning to care for yourself and allowing time and space to heal.
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How They Work Together
Self-healing is part of self-help — it’s the part that focuses on emotional recovery and well-being.
While self-help might include learning new skills or building confidence, self-healing helps you recover from pain and begin to feel whole again.
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You’re Not Alone
Every parent’s grief is unique, but no one should have to face it alone.
We’re here to walk beside you — to listen, share, and remind you that healing, in your own time and your own way, is possible.
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